How To Stop Bullying In 5 Simple Steps

Put a Stop to Bullying in Five Simple Steps.

This harmful behavior is familiar to us all. We have all been bullied, been a bully or have seen some poor soul be bullied. Regardless of what aspect we have had to deal with, it hurts us just the same. We would like to think that as adults we no longer have to deal with this problem, but all too often it carries into adult relationships too. At work, in social settings and in our personal and public relationships. The lucky ones amongst us have been blessed with a good sense of self or some good tools passed down by our family or mentors. For others it continues to hamper their personal growth, dim their personal happiness and suppress the ability to reach their full potential in work, love and creative pursuits.

Step No 1.

Awareness is key!! Start education and empathy building techniques at a young age.
Make your child mindful of the kind of harm and long lasting effects hard words or heavy hands can cause. Use an image of a loved sibling or friend being treated in this way. Put your child in the victim’s role or share a personal story that deeply affected you in some way. Encourage your child to celebrate their peer’s differences and challenge them to learn something new from a classmate. This promotes understanding and takes away the quick response to belittle or judge the unfamiliar or “odd’ they see in others.

Step No 2.

It is helpful to make it clear to your child that it is not only cruel and unacceptable to bully others, but that they themselves should also never condone such behavior. By doing so, they allow the bully to think that this form of abuse is okay or not unusual in any way. Make bullying uncool!
This can be achieved by explaining that most bullies act out in this manner as a result of feeling insecure, feeling powerless, or possibly stemming from some personal failure/inadequacy.
Often it may stem from being bullied themselves.

Step No.3

Teach your child to never suffer in silence. Tell someone. Whether it be teacher, parent , mentor or friend, never let them suffer alone. This is why bullying continues to be an ongoing problem, and often takes place over a long period of time. The majority of those either subjected to this treatment or witness to it, are often either scared to bring it to someone’s attention in fear of worse reprisal or being made to endure even worse punishments themselves for bringing the problem to light. Educators and parents can only address issues that they are aware of and are quite quick and happy to do so if only made informed.

Step No 4.

If your child has been a victim of bullying, inform the school immediately.
Start an anti-bullying campaign at your child’s school and give the students free reign and creativity. This is an excellent way to take bullying out of the closet and give the power back to all students as a whole. The more of their own ideas, slogans, and artwork that they produce on their own, the more they will embrace the idea. Regular talks in class, however brief , touching on this topic will keep the idea alive and encouraging children to air their feelings or solutions will make those that are bullied feel less alone. Praise or recognition for those that have worked
for or acted in a way that suppresses bullying should be commonplace.

Step No 5.

Lastly, involve your child in activities with like minded children. Whenever possible encourage group interactions. Focus on the traits that your child enjoys or excels at whether it be sport minded, academic based or in a creative path. This could be music, drawing, poetry, crafts, etc. The creative pursuits have the added bonus of letting the person involved in them express emotions and feelings. When children interact in a group hobby, task or activity, it promotes team work, empathy and a sense of belonging.

Why being a stripper at night can be your exercise for the day?

Have you seen any fat strippers? Saying no will not be entirely correct but mostly Los Angeles strippers have amazing body mostly because the city of Los Angeles is by the beach and many people are into fitness. They look hot and sexy wearing any kind of clothes and looks even better without them, you agree don’t you folks? Don’t you ever think how can they maintain such a gorgeous figure? The answer is right in front of you folks – strippers stripping and dancing without or without poles gives them major exercise which helps in maintaining their body, toning and tightening those muscles and makes them lean and stunning.

Strippers- how they maintain their gorgeous figure?

Do not think that whet the strippers do at night is easy dear friends, it’s the absolutely opposite. Strippers have a lot of self confidence and a body to die for but both comes at a high cost which they paid to have what they have now – a superb confident and sexy figure which men and also some women ogles while men’s imagination flies over their brains, the women thinks, “how on earth did she get a body like that” – isn’t it? It is quite an obvious fact that dancing burns loads of calories and every night dancing for such a prolong period of times will surely help you to reduce few pounds easily guaranteed.

Pole dancing is one of the secrets behind the perfect figure of the strippers

Some strippers in Los Angeles are extra health conscious to keep their body in perfect size. They opt for various exercise regimes such as jogging and yoga, power yoga in their free time but the best exercise for strong and lean muscles is the pole dancing routine which they have to do every night. Pole dancing is a beautiful, exotic and sexy dance but it needs a lot of training and practice and the things a stripper can do with the pole needs a lot of balance and great strength. People who are viewers can only see the beautiful lady dancing on the pole and moving her body like electricity but it takes a lot of stamina and dedicated to learn and perform pole dancing each and every night.

Few exercises which will help you get the body like strippers

Few exercises which will help you to get a body like strippers are squats which strengthen and tones up your legs and lower body muscles and push up which makes your arms strong and powerful to lift your body weight. Lunges and hanging crunches are also extremely effective.

Great Literary Hoaxes

Margaret B. Jones published “Love and Consequences” in 2008 as a memoir of her life as an abused half black, half native child foster child when in fact she is a white woman from a middle class neighborhood.
“Misha: A Memoire of the Holocaust Years” was written by Misha Defonseca in 1997. The book was a Bestseller and was translated into 18 languages, and made into a feature film in France. However, the author admitted in February 2008 that her story of trekking across Europe with a pack of wolves during the Holocaust wasn’t true. Apparently she’s not even Jewish.
James Frey wrote his 2003 memoir, A Million Little Pieces, about a 23-year-old alcoholic drug abuser who manages to get his life back together with the help of a Twelve Steps-oriented treatment center. Frey eventually admitted to fabricating large portions of the book and left a swindled Oprah apologizing to the world for defending him. Even though the books publisher was forced to offer money back to dissatisfied customers, the book continues to sell as a work of fiction.

JT LeRoy, aka Laura Albert… not only picked a pseudonym but made up a fake background and even sent a friend to impersonate LeRoy on book tours. Albert kept up the HIV-positive former drug addicted hustler double life for several years and managed to squeeze out a few bestsellers(“Sarah” and “The Heart Is Deceitful Above All Things”) before the hammer dropped.

Timothy Patrick Barrus wrote three ‘memoirs’ under the pseudonym Nasdijj: “The Blood Runs Like a River Through My Dreams” (2000), “The Boy and the Dog Are Sleeping” (2003) and “Geronimo’s Bones: A Memoir of My Brother and Me” (2004). Within them he claimed to be of Navajo heritage with abusive parents until LA Weekly blew the story open.

In 1999 Michael Pelligrino fooled US publisher Simon & Schuster into thinking that he was Michael Gambino, grandson of Mafioso Carlo Gambino, and went on to write `The Honored Society` a book that was supposedly based on his own experiences as a gangster. The pack of lies was exposed when a legitimate Gambino family member heard about the book and had his lawyers blow the whistle.

Binjamin Wilkomirski (aka Bruno Grosjean) wrote “Fragments”, a supposed Holocaust memoir, in 1996. The book recalled the horrors of two Nazi death camps in Poland and the book won the National Jewish Book Award for an autobiography. In 1999 a historian investigated accusations against the author it was discovered that Wilkomirski was actually Swiss a man named Bruno Grosjean who had never been in a camp.

Anthony Godby Johnson was credited for writing “A Rock and a Hard Place” in 1993. The story involves a 14-year-old HIV-positive boy describing the sexual abuse he suffers. A group of journalists eventually uncovered that Anthony didn’t exist and the story was totally fictional. The novel had been written by Vicki Fraginals, who claimed to be Anthony’s foster mother and impersonated the fictional child in telephone interviews.

Marlo Morgan, caused a stir among Australian Aboriginal groups when she published “Mutant Message Down Under” in 1994. The book claimed to be a memoir of her time spent with Aboriginals. After a number of protests by Aboriginal groups, claims that Morgan invented large portions of the book, and insights suggesting that she may have never stepped foot on the continent, the book is now published as fiction.

Forbidden Love (also called Honor Lost in the United States) was written by Norma Khouri (pen name of Norma Bagain Toliopoulos). It is the story the writers Jordanian friend who’s love for a Christian soldier had been kept secret from her Muslim father due to conflict in religion. When the father eventually finds out and consequently stabs his daughter to death in a so-called honor killing. In 2004 Sydney Morning Herald journalist Malcolm Knox discovered that book was a hoax leaving us with another work of fiction.

Asa Cater, a white Ku Klux Klan member published “The Education of Little Tree” in 1977 under the pen name Forrest Carter. The book is described as a memoir of Carter, who as a Cherokee orphan who battled racism and struggled to find his heritage. By the 1990s Asa was discovered to be the actual writer of the book and publishers re-classified it as fiction. It was around this time that Oprah removed the book from her list of picks.

Clifford Irving forged letters and signatures and created false names for Swiss bank accounts in an attempt to earn $750,000 for writing a fake biography of the reclusive Howard Hughes.

“Go Ask Alice,” by Anonymous, is the diary of a teenage girl who’d died of a drug overdose which was published as a cautionary tale to deter foolhardy teens from following in her footsteps. However it was eventually revealed that the book’s “editor,” Beatrice Sparks, was also the books author and the anonymous girl was in fact fictitious. The controversy didn’t deter Sparks, who went on to produce many other similar “diaries” about troubled adolescents.

Historical Hoaxes

Maria Monk’s book “Awful Disclosures of Maria Monk, or, The Hidden Secrets of a
Nun’s Life in a Convent Exposed” was published in January 1836. The book is about the seven years that Monk spent at the convent of the Hôtel-Dieu where was forced to have sex with priests who killed the illegitimate babies and made uncooperative nuns disappear. After several investigations it was discovered that building descriptions in the book did not match the actual building and that the claims of the book were false. Moreover, Monk herself was found to have suffered brain damage as a child and had trouble distinguishing fact and fantasy and it is believed she may have been manipulated into the role by publishers.

In the 1840s Reverend Johann Wilhelm Meinhold claimed to have discovered a manuscript written by Abraham Schweidler, a former minister of the old Coserow Church. Meinhold then published the story of Mary Schweidler: The Amber Witch in German as a fact based instructional document for the avoidance of witchcraft. Critics believed it to be authentic and it was only in later editions that the author admitted to it being a work of fiction. This book contains a hoax within the hoax as the English translator Lady Duff-Gordon gave herself credit as author in 1861 denying the original German edition until she was later found out.

In the late 1700s, Thomas Chatterton claimed to have found poems written by a 15th century monk named Thomas Rowley. When it was discovered that Chatterton had written them himself and the young poet panicked killing himself with arsenic. His work was eventually published after his death, and he became a beacon of inspiration to Romantic poets everywhere.

Also in the 1700s James Macpherson claimed a translation of the 3rd century epic Gaelic poet Ossian, it took nearly a century to prove that Macpherson had written them himself.

Hoaxes designed to expose

In an effort to show how literature in America had become mindlessly vulgar a group of writers at Newsday wrote “Naked Came the Stranger” in 1969, going into explicit detail about the sexual adventures of a suburban housewife. When it was found out that the author Penelope Ashe was in fact 25 Newsday writers, sales of the book were left unchanged.

A group of Science Fiction writers got together in 2005 to write book so bad it would be deemed un-publishable by any proper publisher. Each chapter of Atlanta Nights was written by a different author, including both chapter 12s and chapter 34 which was written by a computer program. The only chapter not written by a different author was the non existent chapter 21. The project was to test PublishAmerica s claim that they were a traditional publisher of high quality work, the manuscript was accepted but once the hoax was reveled they re-evaluated their decision and eventually rejected the book. The author group then self published the book on a lark under the pseudonym Travis Tea.

Ern Malley wasn’t an Australian mechanic turned poet, but the creation of James McAuley and Harold Stewart. The pair of poets wrote a set of poems and created an elaborate, albeit fake, back story for Erm Malley. As they hoped the poems were published in an effort to discredit the Australian poetry magazine Angry Penguins. The events all played out as planned and Erm Malley remains one of Australia’s greatest literary hoaxes.

In the mid 1950s, New York radio personality Jean Shepherd was outraged by the way bestseller lists were created. At the time the lists were composed of books sold as well as requests for books at a bookstore. Shepherd urged listeners to go to their local bookstores to demand “I, Libertine,” by Frederick C. Ewing when neither the book nor the author existed. The gag created a sensation and convinced, bestseller list creators that their methods were outdated and also got Sheppard a book deal to actually write the fake book.

Can Complete Skateboards Be A Solution To Child Obesity?

Can complete skateboards really help a child or even an adult be healthier and more fit in life? Is there proof that skateboards can help kids, teens, and even adults stay healthy, both physically and mentally. Can teachers really make a difference by introducing complete skateboards to kids at schools? With the obesity rate of children at twenty percent and rising, do parents have a chance to make a difference or is it too late? These are just some of the questions that we will answer regarding the effects complete skateboards, schools, and parents could have on the fight against child obesity.

Riding skateboards have proven to help children, teens, and even adults stay healthier, both physically and mentally. The proof is on neighborhood streets, local skate parks, even at your states skateboard competitions. If you notice when you see a skater or a kid riding a complete skateboard you will notice how healthy and fit they really are. That is the physical proof that riding a skateboard does help burn calories and build muscle. Did you know that riding one for one hour constantly actually burns four hundred and thirty calories? In fact performing skateboard tricks on a skateboard can even be healthier mentally. When a kid learns to ride a complete skateboard and then starts to learn skateboard tricks, it makes their self-esteem go way up. As a result, they actually accomplish something and feel good about it. Lets face it skateboarding is a way for kids to get quality exercise and have a lot of fun at the same time.

Some schools have started to include skateboards as part of their physical education programs as a way to fight obesity. Riding skateboards in P.E. are helping kids get healthier all around the world. Teachers are stepping up and realizing that complete skateboards do make a huge difference in a child’s health. There is a company called Skate pass that is joining with schools all over the world. They are showing kids, teachers, and parents that riding complete skateboards help burn calories, increases heart rate, and builds quality muscle in the legs, arms and cardiovascular system. Schools have even noticed that when kids got involved in riding complete skateboards in P.E. that they could not wait to go back to school the next day. This in turn has improved school attendance and school truancy. With video games keeping kids indoors for hours in a day, and child obesity more than tripling in the last thirty years, I believe this is a sign from all kids that riding skateboards fills a craving that has been inside of them for many years.

Parents are the biggest link to the success of bringing our countries child obesity rates down from the twenty percent it is at right now. Even the first lady of the United States of America is setting a goal of bringing that twenty percent down to five percent. The first lady and teachers cannot do it alone. Parents must get more involved with their kids. In fact, they need to make sure that their kids drink more milk and water instead of sodas and Gatorade and eat more fruits and veggies instead of chips and cookies. If parents were to get more involved with their children, by investing in a couple of skateboards, this would not only help them be healthier but it would bring them much closer together as a family. With the world these days, being so fast paced parents must realize that their kids just want attention from them. Furthermore, they just want to be recognized and maybe praised occasionally.

Everyone in the U.S. and many other countries understand that we have a major problem with our kids when it comes to obesity. It is important to realize that child obesity can be beat with parents, schools, and complete skateboards coming together. The proof that riding skateboards does keep kids, teens, and adults fit, is all around us every day. Complete skateboards are not that expensive, especially for what it can do for your child’s future in being healthy and fit. In fact, for the price of two popular video games you can buy a brand new name brand complete skateboard and still have money left over to spend on skateboard protective gear. In conclusion, the best thing parents can do right now to get their kids or even themselves healthier and fit is to invest in a skateboard or two and get involved with their child or teen. I believe that parents can find one hour every day in their busy lifestyle to go outside with their child and practice riding one together. A loving parent and a complete skateboard can and will make a difference, not only with a child that is obese, but with any child period.

Four Good Methods Of Baby’s Logical Thinking Training

A grown adult has detailed and systemic logical thinking, and careful and rigorous reasoning capacity always represent with intelligent outstanding persons: from the great Detective “Sherlock Holmes” to business elite in today’s Society, all have admirable logical thinking! Therefore, currently many new parents who have good education background and excellent integrated literacy also increasingly be concern with the training of baby logical thinking capacity. Well then, how to get the baby to understand and grasp the representational and abstract logical thinking ability?

1. Distinguish the instinct, cognize the difference.

Child psychologists pointed out that the baby unable to form an abstract logical thinking, especially around 3 years old. but it does not mean that the parents in this period can ignore or even give up the baby’s thinking skills training and systemic training of abstract logical thinking. Instead, foreign scientists consider that logical thinking traning should start from earlystage. when the baby started babbling and try to communicate with people gradually, which should be the best time for baby’s abstract logical thinking training.

Understanding the difference of survival instincts between the adult and baby will be beneficial to help the baby to create the basic structure of logical thinking and growth; to provide reasonable and rich information of social, lifestyle, experience and scientific knowledge; to help parents better to understand the language external performance and body external performance in baby’s logical thinking; be beneficial to achieve communication of information between parents and baby in order to achieve good training for baby.

2. Real experience of logical training.

Foreign pre-school children experts and child psychologists had come up with some effective methods according to the characteristics of growth and development of young children. These methods can improve logical thinking ability of babies in their daily life.

A. Classification learning

The best way to train your baby of logical thinking ability is to teach baby to find relationships between all kinds of things and “try to classify them”. Classification learning can make baby learn to classify some of the commonly used items as a category according to the same identity and similarity, such as color, shape, size, purpose, and so on. Mom can show picture books to baby , and let them separate different categories from books, for axample: What is the character? What is the animal? What are the plants? What is stationery? And so on, then try to make out the different occupations and identity of these characters. In this process, parents should pay attention to guiding the baby to find a basis for classification. thus can be beneficial to baby’s focusing on small details of things, enhance the powers of observation from childhood.

B. Correlation method

The core factor of “Logical thinking” is to find the “internal relations” among everything. In daily life, parents can use a variety of ordinary household items or simple personal relationship to inspire the baby’s logical reasoning ability. Such as dinner time, mother can ask baby: What is the use of folks and bowls? Are they the same category as the mop at the corner? After dinner, Dad and baby can stand in front of the mirror together, father could ask: ” Look in the mirror, who is shorter? Who is higher? baby always call me ‘dad’, then what the baby is for dad? This effective method can use and extend the relationship among somethings which baby has known very well. and then to explore other relationships among the nature world and inspire baby to the future desire to explore.

C. Sorting

Understanding the concept: sort order , not only help improve the baby reading skills and learning ability in the future , but also being an important way of logical thinking training for baby. When we are training baby, the order can be from big to small, far to near, etc., even can be reversed order. And then help the baby to grasp “first”, “Second”, “third” and other ordinal numbers, and also teach baby how to count patiently. There are a lot of 2 ~ 3 years old baby can easily count from 1 to 10, even more, but not so much counting as reciting. Therefore, parents should materialize figures, such as one boy, two teachers, three flowers, etc., Make baby gradually transition to the “silent counting” from reading the number while pointing by fingers. In addition, parents should also make baby understand the various group things , such as large groups, small groups, so that your baby has a certain understanding of each group that all have cerntain parts. A large group contains many small groups, small groups are combined into large groups, such as, People ’ son ’ baby, plant ’ trees ’ coconut tree and so on.

D. Spatial methods

Some parents tend to consider that babies born to know “up and down, left and right, inside and outside, fornt and behind” and other spatial concepts, This is ,however, not the case actually. In daily life, parents should take advantage of every opportunity to lead babies acquire some spatial concept. Such as when preparing dinner at home, MOM can tell baby: “Please put the chopsticks on the table, please put the small spoon in a bowl. However, for the baby, parents needn’t rush to force him/her to grasp ”left and right”. More foreign experts considerd that commonly children around the age of 5 to 6 may be able to clearly distinguish between “left and right” .

Logic exercises and find fault with it

Actually, It’s not unattainable for parents to enhance the baby’s logical thinking ability. We can play some ” Find Fault” games to achieve more with less effort. For example, parents let babies listen to story seriously and and design some “cute” little errors specific to baby’s age and ability. You can say” what a cold day today! Dad back home and sweat heavily”, ” The weather was great, the baby went to kindergarten wearing a raincoat”….. And so on, through a simple kind of game, let your baby find out the error, you can nurture logical thinking and achieve the purpose of exercise.

What Do Your Children Need To Know To Succeed In Today’s World?

And What Can You Do to Help Them At School and At Home?

The world is changing at an extraordinary pace. Twenty-five years ago, most young people who mastered the “3 r’s” of reading, writing, and arithmetic and had a high school diploma were likely to be able to get and keep a decent job. Not so today. In research for my new book, I’ve come to understand that there are seven “survival skills” all young people need to master for success in today’s world. The skills needed for careers, college, and citizenship have converged. Students who leave high school without them are far less likely to get a good job, succeed in college, or be an active and informed in our democratic society.

All Kids, New Skills

Here are the Seven Survival Skills, as described by some of the people whom I interviewed:

Critical Thinking and Problem Solving
“The idea that a company’s senior leaders have all the answers and can solve problems by themselves has gone completely by the wayside . . . The person who’s close to the work has to have strong analytic skills. You have to be rigorous: test your assumptions, don’t take things at face value, don’t go in with preconceived ideas that you’re trying to prove.”
– Ellen Kumata, consultant to Fortune 200 companies

Collaboration Across Networks and Leading by Influence
“The biggest problem we have in the company as a whole is finding people capable of exerting leadership across the board . . . Our mantra is that you lead by influence, rather than authority.”
– Mark Chandler, Senior Vice President and General Counsel at Cisco

Agility and Adaptability
“I’ve been here four years, and we’ve done fundamental reorganization every year because of changes in the business . . . I can guarantee the job I hire someone to do will change or may not exist in the future, so this is why adaptability and learning skills are more important than technical skills.”
– Clay Parker, President of Chemical Management Division of BOC Edwards

Initiative and Entrepreneurship
“For our production and crafts staff, the hourly workers, we need self-directed people . . . who can find creative solutions to some very tough, challenging problems.”
– Mark Maddox, Human Resources Manager at Unilever Foods North America

Effective Oral and Written Communication
“The biggest skill people are missing is the ability to communicate: both written and oral presentations. It’s a huge problem for us.”
– Annmarie Neal, Vice President for Talent Management at Cisco Systems

Accessing and Analyzing Information
“There is so much information available that it is almost too much, and if people aren’t prepared to process the information effectively, it almost freezes them in their steps.”
– Mike Summers, Vice President for Global Talent Management at Dell

Curiosity and Imagination
“Our old idea is that work is defined by employers and that employees have to do whatever the employer wants . . . but actually, you would like him to come up with an interpretation that you like — he’s adding something personal — a creative element.”
– Michael Jung, Senior Consultant at McKinsey and Company

New Learning and Roles for Parents in the Community

The problem we face as parents is that these are not the skills currently being taught and tested — even in our “good” suburban schools. In America today, I’ve discovered that there is only one curriculum in most of our schools: “test prep.” What gets taught is only what gets tested. And because almost all of the tests students take — from state tests for No Child Left Behind to Advanced Placement exams — require a great deal of memorization and factual recall, these are the only skills being taught in most classrooms. As a consequence, one out of every two students who start college never completes a degree, and employers report that young people today are ill-prepared for the 21st century workplace.

The impact you can have on teacher or school or district may be limited as one individual. I believe parents and concerned community members must work together to become effective advocates for teaching and testing the skills that matter most.

In the last chapter of my book, The Global Achievement Gap: Why Even Our Best Schools Don’t Teach The New Survival Skills Our Children Need — And What We Can Do About It, I suggest that parents and community members must first understand some of the ways the world has changed and how schools need to differently prepare our students for success. Book groups, PTA meetings, and discussions in our churches and synagogues all provide opportunities for the kind of adult learning we need in order to be prepared to ask school board members, educators, and policy makers some important questions like:

• What do you think are the most important skills our high school graduates need today to succeed?
• How are you teaching and assessing these skills?
• How are you gauging the success of our schools — by test scores or by the numbers of students who go to college and succeed there, as well as by how well prepared students are for work? Have you talked to employers and recent graduates of our schools to see if our students graduate with the skills they need?

New Ways to Support Our Children At Home

Many business leaders and educators alike worry about this generation’s “lack of work ethic.” However, I’ve come to understand that the “net generation” is not unmotivated, but rather very differently motivated. Growing up tethered to the internet as most are, today’s teens crave connection with others and learning through discovery. They are accustomed to multitasking in a multimedia world and so find most work in schools to be pointless and boring. But, as parents, we worry about our children’s futures and so push them to succeed in school. We look at their grades and fret about whether they will get into a “good” college. We push them to do more of the “right” things for their college application, and we hope that they will have a lucrative career some day.

All of these concerns are understandable, but the young adults whom I interviewed — when I asked what advice they’d give parents — told me that much of this parental worrying and pressure is actually counterproductive.

Andrew Bruck, a Princeton graduate and currently enrolled at Stanford Law School told me that “parents need to respect the extraordinary capacity of students. Our generation wants to do things. It’s important to nurture children’s creativity. There’s so much pressure to succeed and to go to a brand-name school. There’s no need for parents to pile on the stress.”

A young woman in a focus group I conducted at a New England college agreed, saying “Parents need to support children in their dreams — even if it’s wanting to be an artist.” Another in the group chimed in: “Parents shouldn’t worry so much about how their children are doing in school. They should find out more about what their extracurricular interests are.” Bruck’s high school experience certainly confirmed the importance of extracurricular activities in students’ lives. He told me that he learned more about writing and managing deadlines and leadership from his experience as editor of his high school’s newspaper than he did from any of his classes.

Matt Kulick, a Cornell grad who now works a Google, had perhaps the best advice for parents when he said “A lot of my friends never had a good idea of what they liked or wanted to do because their parents said ‘you’re going to be a doctor’ or . . . And it doesn’t help to tell your kids to do more homework or to always ask them what grade they got. Parents need to find out what their kids like . . . My parents motivated me to do well — not to get A’s but to give my best effort. They trusted me.”

The Transformation Of Times Square

America is often defined by Times Square. After all, this is the famous location of the dropping of the ball on New Year’s Eve. With such a famous designation, it’s only reasonable that Americans would want their country to be represented by something decent. Not as it was for years, a seedy, littered, crime-ridden district.

Times Square, New York at one time was littered with sex clubs and porn shops. One of the most notorious establishments in Times Square could be considered the Gaiety Theatre. This was a male strip club that operated in Times Square for more than thirty years. When they officially closed their doors recently, the Disneyfication of Times Square was considered to be nearly complete.

The decline of Times Square began with the Great Depression, however the original opening of The Gaiety Theatre ushered in hustlers, tourists and individuals of the gay variety. With them, sex clubs opened up and porn movies became popular in this section of New York. Once these establishments took hold in Times Square, the crime rate skyrocketed and people began to avoid this area. After a bit, it began to be considered one of the seedier places to be in New York.

This was presenting a very bad image for New York. With the newly formed Giuliani administration, they swooped in and began enforcing laws that encouraged a higher quality of life for people. By doing this they were able to begin shutting down many of the sex themed establishments. They worked to drive out the people who encouraged sex solicitation and shops. The only drawback was that in people’s minds, it still had a reputation of being a place to avoid. So the biggest hurdle New York had was to show the world that Times Square had indeed changed for the better. Police worked to clean up the streets and brought the crime rate down dramatically.

It wasn’t until the Amsterdam Theatre was closed and transformed into the Disney Theatre that Times Square began to share the Disney name synonymously, then people started to associate Times Square with the “family oriented theme park” kind of mentality. With that association they began to feel that Times Square would also be subject to the Disney type of regulations as they have in their parks.

With the gradual closings of the gay clubs, porn shops and sex establishments, Time Square began to build up a more wholesome image but it took time. These shops weren’t eliminated immediately, it took time and a lot of effort on the parts of many individuals. The upgrading of Times Square was considered a complete success once the last remaining establishment that had such a stronghold on this New York crossroads was officially closed.

Love Marriage And Astrology

Love Marriage And Astrology
Life without love is like a tree without blossom and fruit. – Kahlil Gibran

Kahlil Gibran rightly states, the relationship between our life and love. Love is divine and higher form of spirituality. It is also said that Love is God, and God is Love. It’s a wonderful experience which can happen to anyone. It teaches one to give and to keep giving happiness to others, unconditionally. And then there is an attraction and compassion.

Love marriages have been happening all over, since ancient times mostly in our civilizations. In Vedic and ancient civilization it was considered as Gandharva Vivah i.e., marriage due to the mere choice of male and a female. The ancient examples of Gandharva Vivah are Arjuna and Subhadra, Dushayant and Shakuntala. And in these modern times, love marriages are happening, as well. Love Marriage is a union of two persons based upon mutual attraction, liking and affection. In Love Marriage, the couples usually marry, even if, their elders are against it, for any reasons.

So, in any Love Marriage there is a mutual attraction, liking and affection and the method may be unconventional due to disagreement with elders. Love marriages are done obviously without verifying the charts.

Have you ever thought why and what could be the reasons behind all these love marriages?
Astrologically speaking, there are, certain permutation combination of planets, making love marriages to happen. The astrological birth charts can very clearly and loudly reveal the tendencies and inclinations to go for love marriage. Now, we must also admit here that all love affairs do not get converted into marriages.

The fifth house of horoscope signifies love, affection, love-making and producing progeny as a highest form of creativity. It is major point, revealing the possibilities of bright or dull prospects of love or love affair. It also indicates education period or intelligence in anybody’s horoscope.

The third house of horoscope in astrology, deals with socializing or friends younger then one’s age. And it also signifies neighbor, school or classmate, friend or relative of brother or sister. It also indicates short or frequent journeys, telephonic talks or correspondence. So, with any frequent visitor or the friendship may get started in journeys, telephonic or through any correspondence. Likewise, eleventh house of astrological birth chart governs friendship with elders. The 8th, 10th and 12th houses also play a part in it.

And the 7th house of horoscope signifies spouse or life partner. Astrologically, marriage is to be judged from 7th house of Ascendant, Moon and Sun Signs. The Navamsa and Saptamsha charts have also to be considered while deciding about marriage. Indian Seers have called this trinity of Ascendant, Moon and Sun as Sudarshan Chakra.

The 2nd house of horoscope reveals the family happiness and 12th house indicates the bed pleasures and comforts. These houses have also to be checked along with above said astrological parameters. Similarly, watch for the 9th house of horoscope for the elders, dharma, religion or righteousness. If there are any afflictions of Rahu, Saturn etc on the 9th house of elders, it may prepare one to go against ones elders or cross religion marriage.

Now, having said this, we must understand that there should be some astrological connection between all above said factors to decide whether the love affair will get converted into love marriage. If the lord of 5th house of love affair, is placed in the 7th house of marriage and lord of 7th house of marriage is safely placed in the 5th house of love affair, I mean, if there is exchange of placements of the lords of 5th and 7th in the horoscope representing love affair and marriage respectively, there could be a love marriage.

In an another instance, if the lord of 7th house of marriage is in the 11th house of friendship or vice-versa, there may be good number of chances, of a love affair getting converted into a marriage.

The combination of Moon i.e., mind, Venus i.e.,Love, Saturn i.e.,Touch and Rahu i.e., unconventional methods in ones horoscope may also lead to a love marriage.

The exchange of 1st house lord (of Self) and 7th house lord (of Spouse) may also lead to a love marriage. Similarly the combination, placement or association of 1st lord of self and 7th lord of marriage in the 5th house of Love affair, or 11th house of friendship may also attract love marriage.

As to why there is a mutual attraction between the males and females, there are astrological reasons. Astrologically speaking, the Mars rules the sex life of females and Venus signifies the sex life of males. If the placement of Mars in females horoscope, coincides with the placement of Venus, in Male’s horoscope by closer degree there is a great mutual attraction. However there is 6/8 or 2/12 axis placement of Mars and Venus in the mutual horoscopes they will dislike or hate each other.

When Mars of any woman’s horoscope gets the influence of Saturn or Rahu or both of man’s horoscope to a closer degree, the woman will be drawn towards the man. And when Venus of any man’s horoscope is conjoined or influenced by Saturn or Rahu or both of woman’s horoscope to a closer degree, the man will be drawn towards the lady.

Astrologically if, Mars in females and Venus in males in one and same sign, they will be mutually attracted towards each other and may cause a love affair. If the Jupiter (a benefic planet) of man conjoins Mars of female, to a closer degree, the relations between the two will be based on mutual trust and attraction will be throughout life.

Love received and love given, comprise the best form of therapy. – Gordon William

And this happens, in above stated astrological principles, which produce mutual attraction and affection, that also, life-long. And it is rightfully said by Martin Luther that, there is no more, lovely, friendly, charming relationship, communion or company than a good marriage.

Not always the love marriages are successful, as there are, sometimes, afflictions to the planets causing mutual attraction. Or the so called love or attraction is a trap formed by their planetary positions temporarily till the time of marriage, and later, they fall apart.

Sometimes there is love affair, but no marriage, because there is no mutual astrological link established by the 5th, 7th, 1st, 11th lords and 9th house does not get afflicted, resulting in not getting married due to surrendering to the will of elders or obeying them well. In this case love remains love; however, marriage comes as an arranged marriage by the elders of the family.

When in love, one may not consult for matching of the horoscopes. As said by Sam Keen, “You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly.” However, there is no harm in having an expert astrological counseling or guidance for a good married life.

A Day At The Zoo – Several Things To Tell Your Children Before You Go To The Zoo

Spending a day at the zoo was one of my favorite outings as a young child. I grew up in Chicago and had two wonderful zoos to enhance my early learning experiences.

But now, as an adult, I often find myself wondering if the animals that are caged up are happy and healthy. Learning about how zoo animals are being taken care of both physically and emotionally is a topic of new interest to me and could be a good starting point for parents and teachers as they introduce toddlers and young children to the zoo and all the exciting animals, birds, sea life snakes and more.

Here are some zoo animal facts I think are important to go over with your child: these are several common zoo animal questions/concerns to address with your toddlers and young children before going to the zoo for the first time or when playing zoo, or playing with zoo play sets.

One of the most important parts of animal care in a zoo is their enrichment. Enrichment is made up of the many ways in which the zookeepers provide zoo animals with the opportunities to express their own species-typical behaviors. Enrichment also provides zoo animals with an occupation, something to do with their time.

The enrichment animals receive come in forms of:

· new or unusual item or experience
· design of the enclosure
· interactions with same species, other species & humans

Does your child love bright red balls? Well, so do zoo animals! A bright rubber ball is one “unusual item” zookeepers often give some animals. The animals can butt this ball with their heads. A bear that is given a mirror will think that he is seeing himself for the first time – that he has a new rival, and he will practice “I’m bigger than you” actions.

Your children will be interested to learn that elephants enjoy a chain with different-sized metal pipes hanging from it. When the elephants manipulate the pipes and swing them together they make “music”. This is fascinating for them and entertains them throughout the day thereby keeping them from getting bored. A happy elephant is more fun to be around!
Gently spraying water from a hose gives a jaguar an unexpected rain shower and a trail of musky scent and the tall grass gives tigers something to track their prey through.

Enclosure designs are important as well as what is placed inside. Explain to your child that just as his own bedroom design is important to him Gorillas, for example, needs his own special environment. Gorillas are provided grassy hillsides, a tangle of tree roots, and other trees and bushes. Both sunny and shady spots give him a variety of places to sit, play, sleep or just hide out. A snake, you tell your child, is provided an enclosure with a sandy area, leafy branches in a corner and a darkened cave that he can explore, curl up and hide or wind his way up to a higher, safer position.

Your young child may have begun to realize and recognize different social interactions he has engaged in during his play and work. He enjoys being with other kids his own age as well as younger or older children and adults. He also enjoys being around animals such as his pet dog, cat, or maybe a fish. You can explain to him that animals are also enriched by such interactions.

Housing social species like elephants, flamingos, or antelope together will allow them to create a social structure and learn and practice all the behaviors necessary to be successful within it. Interactions between animals and human keepers and their trainers gives animals opportunities to learn new things, just as your child learns new things from being around different people and animals.

Animals, you can explain to your child, achieve goals and experience successes (and failures), test limits on occasion, and in some cases receive praise or affection just the same as he experiences in his own daily life at home with his parents and siblings.

When teaching your child about a particular zoo animal you can explain that each animal has to receive mental stimulation as well as physical exercise. Children should be taught that animals, as well as people, have choices and some control over their environment. Knowing this, children will rest assured that the caged up animals are happy and content.

To continue your child’s early learning zoo education it is a good idea to provide him with zoo coloring pages, crafts and actual zoo play sets. I found a wonderful website from the San Diego Zoo where you can find plenty of ideas.

When get your child a wooden play set purchase one that has plenty of animals to play with and you will discover many teaching opportunities opening up for both teachers and parents. As your child plays creatively you can ask him open-ended questions and “lead” his playtime to learning experiences he will long remember. As your child plays creatively you can ask him open-ended questions and “lead” his playtime to learning experiences he will long remember.

Shop around on the Internet for zoo play sets and find the perfect one for your child. You want to remember to make sure it is made out of hardwood so there are no splinters. Of utmost importance you will also want to select handcrafted and hand-painted toys with child safe, lead-free paint to assure you of a quality, safe toy for your toddler and young child.

Now that your child has had some pre-zoo and zoo animal lessons pack a picnic lunch and schedule a day at the zoo with your family. There is nothing like a day in the sun to go see all the wonderful African animals, sea life, birds and so much more.

Your child will be delighted to actually see the animals that you had previously introduced and talked about in their natural habitat. His lessons will “come alive”! What better way to learn. Your child’s trip to the zoo and the new learning adventures he experiences at the zoo can be incorporated into his playtime when he comes home and many months or years thereafter.

For bountiful teaching opportunities that you will be able to talk to your children about all summer long plan a trip now – and have a wonderful DAY AT THE ZOO!

Childhood Obesity: Emotional Effects And Sedentary Lifestyles

The social and psychological issues of childhood obesity are perhaps even more intrusive on the child’s life than the physical. Childhood is a critical time for the development of self-esteem, thus the psychological issues faced by an overweight child places even more urgency on the prevention of the problem.

Obesity is “one of the most stigmatizing and least socially acceptable conditions in childhood.” (Schwimmer, Jeffrey B., MD ET AL,: Health-related quality of life of severely obese children and adolescents,” The Journal of American Medicine, 2003, p. 1818). An historic study showed that normal weight children rank obese children as the least desirable friends. Obese individuals were described as lazy, dirty, dumb and deceitful. These descriptions were made by children as young as six years old (Must, Aviva, Ph.D., “Effects of obesity on morbidity in children and adolescents,” Nutrition in Clinical Care, p. 9).

One study relates that the quality of life of an obese child can be directly compared to the quality of life of a child undergoing cancer treatment. They feel excluded from a variety of activities and have lower levels of self worth and self esteem. They are teased and withdraw from their peers. The physical limitations and inability to keep up with normal activities may lead to a vicious cycle of additional weight gain. Studies have also shown that obese children miss four times more school than healthy weight children, which could lead to decreased school performance (Schwimmer, p. 1814).

Depression and Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) have also been linked to childhood obesity (Mustillo, Sarah, Ph.D., “Obesity and psychiatric disorder: developmental trajectories,” Pediatrics, 2003, p. 854). ODD is manifested by a pattern of uncooperative and defiant behavior toward authority that can interfere with day-to-day functioning (www.aacap.org).

The effects of obesity effects have a lasting impact on an individual’s life in childhood, through adolescence and into adulthood. Obese adolescents have lower education attainment, earn less money and have higher rates of poverty. Discrimination because of obesity has been documented toward adolescents in apartment rentals, employment opportunities and college admissions (Must, p. 9). Finding success as an adult is an enormous challenge, but especially daunting when faced with the physical, emotional and discriminatory effects brought on by obesity www.healthlink.mcw.edu.

Americans in general are much too sedentary. Children should have at least thirty minutes per day of exercise outside of school time (Hu,Frank B., M.D., Ph.D., “Television watching and other sedentary behaviors in relation to risk of obesity and type 2 diabetes mellitus in women,” The Journal of American Medicine, 2003, p. 1790). Television, computers, and video games consume more and more of outside playtime. Television watching is the predominant sedentary behavior in children, second only to sleeping (Kaur, Haroshena, M.D., MPH, “Duration of television watching is associated with body mass index,” The Journal of Pediatrics, 2003, p. 506).

Watching television is more strongly associated with obesity than other sedentary behaviors. This is because (1) watching television reduces energy expenditure by limiting time that children spend doing physical activities, (2) watching television leads to increased energy intake because it tends to lead to snacking – especially with the inundation of junk food enticements, and (3) watching television has even less energy expenditure associated with it than other sedentary behaviors such as reading and writing. (Hu, p. 1790).

Increased time spent in front of the television can result in a net gain of 350 calories per day (combined loss of potential physical activity with snacking) that over a week would result in a 0.7 pound gain in body weight per week. (Epstein, Leonard H., Ph.D., “Effects of manipulating sedentary behavior on physical activity and food intake,” The Journal of Pediatrics, 2002, 140, p. 334). These findings suggest that even in healthy, non-obese children, sedentary behavior can drastically increase caloric consumption while decreasing energy expenditure.